On Dustys Desk: Unpopular opinion: Being single is fine
February 15, 2017
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In this day and age, it seems like everyone is caught up in who is dating who and who isn’t dating anyone.
I understand the Bible says “be fruitful,” but the Bible also says in Romans 12:2, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”
If you are not religious, or Christian, the best way to imagine this is to understand that while it is in our nature to try to find our perfect match, we have to remember that there is a plan for each of us and that when the time comes love will find its way. You mustn’t rush it or try to force something because others are.
Right around this time, dating websites spike with new members and people either feel happy or sad. There is not really an in between.
The problem with this is these people probably will not find their soulmate or the love of their life. They will find a person they can tolerate just because they are tired of being alone.
In the end, this situation will not last and will hurt just as much, if not more, than if you were alone in the first place. Too many young people are stuck in the mindset of being in a relationship when working on your own person is just as important.
I am single and I am working on myself. I am working on my hobbies, growing my career and working to buy things I want.
I am traveling, exploring who I am and learning to appreciate myself. It is hard to love someone else if you first can not love yourself.
If you are Christian then I would say that God has a plan for us. He is working diligently to ensure that whatever future we have is going to make an impact on our lives.
It is important to remember that just because you are alone physically, does not mean you are alone spiritually. Why not be alone a little while longer instead of jumping into a relationship with someone and having it fail?
Life is about experiences, yes, but it is also about personal journey and discovery. It is about learning who we are as individuals and sharing that with the world.
Hold onto the things you can not take back, take things slow with another person and really ask yourself if this is who you think about when you think of your life in ten years. If you do not see yourself with that other person in ten years end it and move on.
We only have one chance at life and it is important that we get it right the first time. Love yourself, take your time in life and remember that you always have someone watching over you in hard times.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”