Whether you are in a relationship or are just seeing someone for the fun of it, the sexual experience is remarkably important to the enjoyment one can share with his or her partner.
There are many factors to look into when trying to create the most pleasure out of love making. Setting is one of the mostimportant elements.
The No. 1 thing a couple can do to make sure they get the most out of sex is to take it out of the traditional realm of the bedroom.
Throughout my life, I’ve always been more of a traditionalist. I’ve usually left sex to be something enjoyed on a mattress.
But every once in a while, I’ve found that moving past the traditional and experimenting with new places and situations elevates the sexual experience.
For those who might be nervous about the idea of leaving the bedroom, fear not.
This change doesn’t have to be a drastic one. Moving to a different area of the house can intensify the excitement of sex. Taking sex into the shower or even onto the couch can not only add to the thrill of sex, but also to the appreciation you feel toward your partner when you aren’t naked.
Simply put, your relationship will be stronger. I don’t have the words to describe the emotions I have felt after sex outside the bedroom with a partner.
But if you are both willing to take sex outside of the comfort of your own home, starting slow is imperative.
You shouldn’t start out in a public library right away, especially if your partner isn’t very keen on sex in a public setting. A quiet place outdoors will help ease the transition for a person who isn’t so fond of full-out sex in public.
While most of the advice I’ve given so far has been geared toward those in a relationship, it doesn’t mean a couple out of a relationship can’t have the same amount of fun.
I wouldn’t recommend public sex to a couple that sees a relationship in its future, though. It might cause the flame of your potential relationship to sizzle more quickly because you’ve moved too fast. The right way to begin a sexual relationship is to get to know your partner’s body in a normal setting before expanding your boundaries.
Jones • Mar 5, 2011 at 10:51 am
Ditto to the comments. While the author is entitled to his opinions, he neglected to point out that sex in public places such as libraries is against the law. You will be arrested and carted off to jail. In addition, it is just plain nasty and embarrassing to others who may inadvertently stumble on the act being performance. Several years ago, a prof and student (no names here) were discovered having sex in his “public” office by a member of the janitorial staff. While the “illegal” act was swept under the rug, the janitor was visibly upset. So do your deed at home and if you cannot wait, check into to a relatively inexpensive hotel. Note, sex in a car is also illegal.
Seriously... • Mar 3, 2011 at 4:19 am
I too am a UWW alum just browsing to see what’s up. Read the piece out of curiosity. Considering:
– the cliché that ‘variety is the spice of life’;
– the many hazards of casual sex; and
– that sex in public is prohibited by law,
I imagine the piece wasn’t to be taken too seriously…but if it was, there’s cause for concern…
Lynn • Mar 3, 2011 at 3:38 am
Stanley, the newspaper’s adviser has no control over its content.
Stanley • Mar 3, 2011 at 1:11 am
I graduated from UW-Whitewater in the spring of 2009, and I think this column is absolutely absurd and embarrassing. Seriously, Gardner. What. The. Hell. What has happened to the Royal Purple this year? Some guy writing a column about “making love” in a public library or outdoors somewhere? Who. Gives. A. Crap. Where is the newspaper’s adviser? Did he/she approve this garbage? If he/she did, that person should be fired. Please stop writing this column and cover some real news.