Chocolates, flowers, and stuffed teddy bears are great gifts for Valentine’s Day, but are they really that thoughtful? I can’t tell you what to buy your special someone, but I can give you some tips and tricks to spark ideas that will make your partner feel loved this Valentine’s Day.

The element of surprise can be a powerful tool in gift-giving. Try telling your significant other to get dressed up, but don’t tell them where you’re going. Being spontaneous can liven up the day. If you’re stuck and can’t think of an idea of what to get them, you may feel the urge to ask your partner what they would like for Valentine’s Day, but asking your partner directly can feel like they’re giving you a shopping list for an ordinary Walmart run, which isn’t very romantic. Instead, try talking to their friends and family to get their opinion, or to get a second opinion on some ideas that you have already. The bottom line is: don’t let your partner know their gift before you give it to them.

Let’s talk about jewelry. Be careful of getting your significant other heart-shaped jewelry. There’s been debate online where women talk about what kind of heart jewelry is okay, and what kind is a no-go. The debate around the classic heart-shaped necklace is there because it’s the obvious option, making it not very personal or special. If you want to buy your partner jewelry, simply take a look at what they already have. Do they wear silver or gold? Danty or statement pieces? Earrings, bracelets, or necklaces? Base your decision on what they already have, as well as your own judgment about what you think they may like. Here’s a hint if you partner loves Taylor Swift: Many people are getting their swiftie partner a necklace with their initial on it, based on the lyric “I want to wear his initial/On a chain round my neck.”

If your Valentine is more of a practical person, you might want to think about the longevity or functionality of the gift that you give. For example, Target and Walmart often have heart-shaped bakeware that could be used year-round. Getting them something that could be used for a hobby of theirs is always a good bet. You could also give an experience. Does your significant other complain about back pain? Book them a massage. Did they mention a new restaurant they want to try out? Take them there. Gifts like these show that you care about their interests and that you listen to your partner.